Black Families Matter
That’s firstly a two-parent home, secondly a financially secure two-parent home.
“All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”
A few weeks ago the world woke up to the shock of racism and police brutality in America with the shameless death of George Floyd.
George Floyd, his only crime was that he was a black man.
My husband is black, my father was black, my brothers are black, my boys are black.
It doesn’t matter that Oprah is the richest woman in the world. She couldn’t help him.
It doesn’t matter that Barack Obama was a two-time American president. He couldn’t help George.
Kanye couldn’t help.
There is something infinitely wrong with today’s society. Men don’t know where they fit in, they don’t know their place.
Fifty years ago, the man was the head of the family. He protected and cared for his family. He fought off lions if he had to. He was the embodiment of courage, strength, perseverance and determination.
Now, we are not in danger anymore. Women earn their own money. There is no-one to protect and feed.
Men don’t know where and how they fit in.
With the rise of double-income families, and everyone earning equally, well maybe the man should stay at home and look after the babies. After all, she is a lawyer.
We perpetuate this negative mindset with the rise of the feminist. By all means, let’s have our rights, but not at the detriment of your rights as a man.
It is a double-edged sword.
Especially for the kids growing up in these households. My mom is the strong one. The boys grow up thinking that this is the norm.
The girls grow up thinking this is the norm. They don’t have any other means to get a balanced view. We say a college degree and school is a farce. Every child can now be homeschooled, it’s not for the privileged anymore.
With that comes the isolation from the community. The kids don’t have to mix with other children or grown-ups anymore. You don’t even need to go to the shops to buy groceries, everything gets delivered to your door. With Amazon, you can get a same day delivery if you order before a certain time. Hell, if you buy more there is no delivery fee.
Our biggest flaw is that we are comfort seekers.
It’s comfortable to keep the kids at home, work from home, get groceries delivered. No-one will be judging you for the choices you make. We see nothing wrong with it because there is nothing to balance it against.
Girls, it’s our job to change this. It starts with using birth control. Most likely he is not ready and neither are you. Don’t throw your whole life away by getting pregnant. That was the 1950s. Guys, keep it in your pants.
If there is anything you need to build early on, it’s some restraint. Restraint to sex, food, drugs, fast cars. Your life can spin out of control so easily and one day you wonder, how did it happen? Every day, slowly, without you noticing.
Ladies, there’s more to having a party and a good time in your twenties. Unknowingly, you are building the foundation of a good family home. Don’t waste it. You can’t play catch up later.
I know that I may be preaching to the converted here and we are all model families. As model as we perceive them to be, but without a doubt, there is someone on the brink of making one of two decisions.
One on his way to make a better life for his current or future family. Another one that thinks that all of this is just too hard. Leave me alone and he turns over on the couch and pulls the sheets over his face.
Which one are you?